A Few Considerations for the Men Who Reply to t4m Personal Ads
As transsexual women are often misunderstood in our culture, which is starting to look more and more like 1984 with each passing day, people often think that this is a choice. That this is some sort of kink like crossdressing and therefore, we are not serious about really being women. They seem to think that since we were given the biology of men, we will understand their tactics and be as horny as they are, wanting sex regardless of who gets hurt. However, transsexuals are just like any other women and need to be respected and treated as such. Many men would do well to understand this, because transsexuals are more than likely to make better girlfriends than a number of women out there today. So today, I am going to post on how to respond so you can attract a transsexual woman and hopefully score a real, meaningful long-term relationship.
Firstly, you have to be at least somewhat intelligent in your response to my ad. If you do not know something, consider googling it first – it is more than likely that your answer is already online and explained in a much better fashion than I ever could. Please also consider asking pointed questions about the points I made in my ad and talking about your views. Tell me a little bit about yourself – your name, your age, where you live in town, what you like to do in your free time, what you do for work, etc. These things show me that you are a bright, intelligent person that I would likely enjoy meeting. If you act like a bloody neanderthal and refuse to respond to an ad or tell me a little bit about yourself, I can tell that you are not really interested. Remember, the phrase “I don’t like talking about myself” is not an excuse. It just shows how illiterate/dumb/disinterested you are.
Second, if you send a photo of anything other than your face, I am going to know straight away that only one thing is on your mind. Your chances are immediately axed due to this and it is unlikely that I would be willing to consider you further. I have many options to go on this, I can politely tell you that I have no interest in that and break it off there and then. If you were particularly rude to me, however, you will probably be strung along and everything you send and attach will likely appear on this website. I have no desire to bullshit around so please understand – reading my ad saves you lots of time. In addition, to generate more content, I will google your name and post additional details on my website.
Third, sex is a very important consideration to a healthy relationship and I will most assuredly give you sex, once we are in a committed relationship. I am married to someone whose sex drive is near nil and I am aching for some serious sex. However, I am only looking for sex with a guy who I am truly committed to and have a serious poly vee relationship with. We would need to date first and yes, this means dating enough – to the point where we would be able to get to know one another better and thus, be able to enter into a relationship with one another. Anyone who replies to an ad asking for a real relationship with an offer of a friends with benefits kind of arrangement would most assuredly get no response or their info posted on the web. In addition, please consider the fact that in the bedroom, transsexuals like to be treated as women and will not fuck you but instead, want to be fucked.
Fourth, yes I am married to another transsexual woman but just because I am looking for a poly vee relationship does not mean I do not value my relationship with her or that I am planning to break up with her. Do not make it conditional that I have to break up with her in order to be with you because that does not make me happy in the least bit. Your ad will not be considered and you will most assuredly not get a date with me, or another date if I have had the unfortunate time to have a date with you. This request will royally piss me off and will likely earn you a spot in the Douchebags in Heat section of this website. Consider yourself warned.
Fifth, transsexual women are simply women and should be treated as such. If your fantasy is to have someone who looks like a woman fuck you as though they were a man, most transsexuals would not be interested in this. Your best bet would be to look in a rag like the Westword for an escourt to provide this service to you. We do not want to be treated like men, we want to be treated like ladies and this means simply treating us like any other woman that you would date. If you refuse to do this, understandably, we would likely get quite irritated at you for this serious lack of consideration towards us. This would probably be enough to break off any relationship you have with a transwoman. To the t-girls reading this, any man who says they want a pre-op or a non-op transsexual only, keep in mind that they are predators seeking to, at the very least, keep you from your dreams of living your life as a woman in every way possible.
Finally, if you are not interested, please say so and leave it at that. Men are particularly notorious for being liars and cheats and they refuse to tell us if they have no interest at all. Trust me, it is a lot nicer and a lot less stressful for us if you tell us why you have no interest in seeing us. If you refuse to reply, you either make us worry or just come off as a total douchebag. Generally, you should respond within 24 hours of each reply you receive, special circumstances notwithstanding. If there are likely special circumstances, like you have to go up to Evergreen for a funeral, please mention it in one of your responses or set an autoresponder to let me know this.
I write these rules simply out of care, namely, the care for my fellow sisters who have to put up with this shit in the dating world. I hate dating and one thing that definitely sucks about being poly is the fact that even though you are already in a committed relationship, you still date others. However, this was written also to encourage those men that have no intention to violate these faux pas anyway. This is for the men who actually want a relationship with a transwoman and are mature enough to see that a transwoman is just another woman, albeit with a few issues that need sorting out. The men who do not see transsexual women as whores but rather, as the vibrant, wonderful beings that we are.
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