I think it’s high time for some reflection on what it truly means to me, to be trans. Well, even though I have had a lot of ups and downs, a lot of highs and lows and I have won a lot of battles in my struggle to be me, I must admit that there are some problems in my life which are horribly difficult to contend with. I am now on my 10th month on hormones and my 5th month being full-time. With the exception of my voice, I have been told that I pass pretty well and I am certain that the more that I work on, the better things are going to get. So, let’s get this status report under way, eh? Continue reading ‘10 Months on Hormones, 5 Months Full-Time’
Tag Archive for 'sexual orientation'
NOTE: This post has some really intimate details, I’d highly recommend that if you are a prude or under the age of consent, you stay away from this post. In fact, if you are a prude, why are you reading this blog at all?!? Let me know!
If you want me to be honest, I can’t honestly say that I am exclusively a lesbian. I am a pansexual, meaning that I am attracted to the person, regardless of gender. I just happen to lean more towards the lesbian side. But what if I fell in love with a man, a man that I knew from my previous life? If my fantasies were getting married to him and making love to him and being the perfect suzy homemaker, does that make me any less truthful about my sexual desires? Well, no, not really. I write here in the moment (or I try to at least) and I believe that my sexuality is quite fluid. I am a pansexual who is largely attracted to other women. But to deny the fact that I don’t have desires about men that I have known in my life is a complete and blatant lie and I am too honest to deprive my readers of anything but the truth. So, yes, I profess sexual fluidity - but is that really such a bad thing? Continue reading ‘Sexual Fluidity’
I doubt that many people completely and totally grasp the concept of transsexuality. Especially if someone is a lesbian transwoman or a gay transman. I keep getting the question “why can’t you just stay a dude?” or something to that effect. Sometimes, I get tired of answering this question over and over again but to sum it up, here’s the brass tacks: sexual orientation is different from gender identity. I could explain my situation, but if you really want to understand the general idea that sexual orientation is different than gender identity, then I would highly recommend reading a page that the Centre for Gender Sanity created on it called the Diagram of Sex and Gender. But some people might not get the idea from this page so I am going to explain it all in a different manner down here. Continue reading ‘Why I Just Can’t “Stay a Dude”’
There is a threat in this world that threatens the very people that support it. Ex-gay camps, or as they really are, gay concentration camps, make money off of the gullible people that are willing to send their kids on one of these retreats. These people scoop the personality and critical thinking skills (or what is left of them) out of a person’s head and collect your money. This is not a tin foil hat conspiracy theory, it is actually happening right here and right now! Sometimes, people are able to break free from the programming that goes on at these camps (thus creating ex-ex-gays, who speak out against the institution). However, given this very real threat, we should all be aware of it and do everything we can to stop it. Continue reading ‘Ex-Gay Quackery and Why You Should Care’
Sometimes, I think every transsexual gets shockingly inappropriate questions from moronic people and it hurts that even people that you considered friends ask these utterly demeaning and perverted questions. On the day (or maybe the day after) Facebook released the chat features of it’s website - I tried to strike up a conversation with an old friend of mine from Bible Camp (yes, when I was a Xian, I went to Bible camp…). Now, to ensure that he isn’t completely humiliated from my revealing this, I will be kind enough to remove his name. Continue reading ‘Creepy Questions from an Old Friend’